There’s a lesson that keeps nudging at me. You would think that by now I would get the hint and prevent situations that would force it to reappear. But if you’re a people pleaser like myself, then this can be hard to do. What can be hard to do? Putting yourself first, that’s what.
Now, I have gotten better at doing this over the past 2 years or so but it’s a process like anything else. If you keep saying “yes” to everyone then you won’t be able to say “yes” to yourself. In doing so, certain things tend to happen. You start to complain, get emotionally drained, feel spread too thin, will regret saying ‘yes’ in the first place, won’t have time for yourself or the things you want to do…you get my drift right?
Why do we feel bad when we say “no”?! ARGH! It’s so frustrating but it’s something we should practice more often. We should say no to others so we can say yes to ourselves. Sounds simple enough but I recently had this life lesson present itself again. I had to think about what I wanted, what was important to me, and I had to say that two letter word: no. I must admit, as soon as I did that I felt so free, like I could breathe again. See the emotional weight that we put on ourselves by simply not putting ourselves first?
Saying no doesn’t have to be a literal thing neither. Saying no to negative energy, people, and situations are just as important. In fact, I think they’re crucial because if it isn’t going to add to your life it will surely take away. And who the f*kc wants that?!
So remember, putting yourself first means saying ‘no’ to others in order to say ‘yes’ to yourself.
Try it. Practice it. Live it. Be it.